The Cheer

A Star is a star, is a star
No matter who you are
No matter how you are
No matter how you feel

I tell you my dreams
In the hope that its you and me
When it isn't to be
My dreams are mine

Though you'll always remain dear
When it isn't to be
My dreams are mine
And so is the Cheer

Conversations [...]

m: whoa dude, what the hell happened to you?
h: yeah i know, i look like crap !

m: ah its not that bad, don't be too hard on yourself.
h: hehe, this sucks, but also strangely liberating

m: yeah, that can happen
h: i know. its time to dig and uproot

m: yup, its pretty deep in
h: this is gotta be one of them paradigm shifts

m: you'll get there slowly, dont be too caught up on one thing
h: haha, you're right, thats what got me here in the first place !

m: phew, i cant tell you how happy i am
h: i'm not there yet, give me some time, i'll be there

m: yup, all in good time my friend
h: all in good time.

The need to belong

"A hypothesized need to form and maintain strong, stable interpersonal relationships is evaluated in light of the empirical literature. The need is for frequent, nonaversive interactions within an ongoing relational bond. Consistent with the belongingness hypothesis, people form social attachments readily under most conditions and resist the dissolution of existing bonds. Belongingness appears to have multiple and strong effects on emotional patterns and on cognitive processes. Lack of attachments is linked to a variety of ill effects on health, adjustment, and well-being. Other evidence, such as that concerning satiation, substitution, and behavioral consequences, is likewise consistent with the hypothesized motivation. Several seeming counterexamples turned out not to disconfirm the hypothesis. Existing evidence supports the hypothesis that the need to belong is a powerful, fundamental, and extremely pervasive motivation."

(PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2007 APA, all rights reserved)

Authors: Baumeister, Roy F.; Leary, Mark R.
Affiliations: Baumeister,Roy F.: Case Western Reserve U, Dept of Psychology, Cleveland, OH, US

Source: Psychological Bulletin. 1995 May Vol 117(3) 497-529

Turn, turn, turn

To everything, turn, turn, turn
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)

A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep

A time to build up,a time to break down
A time to dance, a time to mourn

A time to love, a time to hate
A time for peace, I swear its not too late

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Symbolizing the end..

Ross: Yeah, but this can't be it (the end), I mean ...
Rachel: Then how come it is ?

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Sharing ..

The bond between two people in love is quite amazing. Sometimes opposites do attract, sometimes its the opposite. But for two people to enjoy the same things together at the same level, that is something worth living for.

To know that when you are playing tennis or going for a jog or on a beach, both are there because this what they like doing and not just there, merely to be with the other or to spend time with the other or because one person likes it and the other person wants to see the other happy.

It is when both enjoy it and the fact they are together while they do things they would enjoy individually, that compounds the joy and happiness.