New dimensions.

Following the adherence to the Phase-out as per the post below, "Eloping with the Breeze" will no longer pursue the overwhelming focus on the singly sided objective. Although some posts in the past have looked beyond this objective, they quite often just ricocheted from it. This will expand the dimensions, explore new frontiers and present perspectives which accurately reflect the current ideaology and still retain the spirit of the Breeze.

The spirit of the Breeze is (currently) described as the "Escapes of the mind, in words that sometimes over simplify things, sometimes complicate them and sometimes, say no more than what is read".

The Subject, the Elusion and the Phase-out.

The Elusion owes its existence to my mindless escalation of the Subject to unrealistic heights. The continuing indulgence in this exercise has also worked towards all aspects to be often looked upon as a far cry from the supposed potential.

Retroactively, one of the chief benefits of this exercise has been the ability to adapt to the Least Common Denomitator and quite importantly, the decreasing sense of fanciful attachment to needless nostalgia.

The Elusion, for the most part, has contributed at best to serve as a challenge to staying positive and at worst to a feeling of destitution and general disillusionment. The prevalence of the latter being higher puts forth the increasing importance for the Phase-out of the obsession with the Subject and subsequently the Elusion.

The Phase-out aims to serve the much needed neutralising effect. The inherent quality of being human and therefore lacking a machine like precision poses an uphill task for the constant application of the Phase-out. Drawing from the benefit of 'withdrawal of attachment' , it is however intended that the occasional drop in guard is reverted at the earliest.

Another important aspect of the Phase-out will be the avoidance to the maximum possible level of all activities that lead to the ascension of the Subject or the Elusion. Such activities serve no constructive purpose and contribute to self destruction. They also blur the line of neutrality and warrant entry in to discarded territory.

The sole purpose of existence for the Phase-out is to retain the Cheery Disposition at most times and a speedy return from the suspected fall outs. The Subject, will perhaps always exist in some way, shape or form, not prominent but constrained and the lack of indulgence will ultimately lead to the eventual abandonment of the Elusion.

The need to belong

"A hypothesized need to form and maintain strong, stable interpersonal relationships is evaluated in light of the empirical literature. The need is for frequent, nonaversive interactions within an ongoing relational bond. Consistent with the belongingness hypothesis, people form social attachments readily under most conditions and resist the dissolution of existing bonds. Belongingness appears to have multiple and strong effects on emotional patterns and on cognitive processes. Lack of attachments is linked to a variety of ill effects on health, adjustment, and well-being. Other evidence, such as that concerning satiation, substitution, and behavioral consequences, is likewise consistent with the hypothesized motivation. Several seeming counterexamples turned out not to disconfirm the hypothesis. Existing evidence supports the hypothesis that the need to belong is a powerful, fundamental, and extremely pervasive motivation."

(PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2007 APA, all rights reserved)

Authors: Baumeister, Roy F.; Leary, Mark R.
Affiliations: Baumeister,Roy F.: Case Western Reserve U, Dept of Psychology, Cleveland, OH, US

Source: Psychological Bulletin. 1995 May Vol 117(3) 497-529

Sharing ..

The bond between two people in love is quite amazing. Sometimes opposites do attract, sometimes its the opposite. But for two people to enjoy the same things together at the same level, that is something worth living for.

To know that when you are playing tennis or going for a jog or on a beach, both are there because this what they like doing and not just there, merely to be with the other or to spend time with the other or because one person likes it and the other person wants to see the other happy.

It is when both enjoy it and the fact they are together while they do things they would enjoy individually, that compounds the joy and happiness.